A woman in South West England quit her job to start an academy that teaches young women to spoil husbands.
Alena Kate Pettitt had worked in a marketing company. But after getting married, she decided to quit her job and later welcomed her son into the world.
She resides in the Cotswolds, where her days revolve around making sure everything is perfect for her husband and son.
According to Alena, she’s now a proud ‘homemaker’ of her generation who’s ‘happy to submit to, keep house, and spoil [her] husband.’
Women have been battling sexism for many decades. And many hope to evolve the stereotype of being just wives and mothers.
However, for Alena, she feels that it’s exactly what she was born to be.
Speaking to the BBC, she said:
“The culture (in the 1990s) was anything but what I enjoyed, and it definitely made me feel like an outsider.”
“It was all kind of, let’s fight the boys and go out and be independent and break glass ceilings.”
“But I just felt like I was born to be a mother and a wife. What I really related to were the old shows of the 1950s and 60s.”
According to the woman, she was only happy after quitting her job.
She now enjoys making sure her husband returns home to home-cooked meals.
She also dedicates her time to submitting to her husband and spoiling her family through cleaning and cooking. And her husband provides her with a ‘monthly allowance’ to meet the needs of her household.
Alena has also set up ‘The Darling Academy,’ where she helps others improve their housewife skills. This academy focuses on good manners, etiquette and homemaking.
Among other subjects, Alena trains women interested in the old-fashioned ways of living, including ‘traditional English manners, lifestyle and values.’
She’s also part of the newfound culture knows as ‘Tradwives.’ This is a group of women who choose to live upholding traditional values and responsibilities, for both male and female.
While the ‘#TradWife’ trend seems like a huge step back for women, Alena argues feminism is about choices.
“To say you can go into the working world and compete with men… to me is taking a choice away.”
This trend is undoubtedly not for everyone, and the mother has had her fair share of backlash.
But she believes shaming people for ‘traditional’ lifestyles is counter-intuitive because that is ‘not progressive.’
“It’s empowering to say I don’t want part of the modern narrative that says you’re less than if you stay home.”
“We’ve incredibly undervalued. Think about it, did you not want your mum there? Did you not want your traditional wholesome supportive, loving environment to be brought up in.”
“I’m not saying that anything other than that isn’t. But it’s the model way, and it’s beautiful to be able to live it.”
“Don’t make us feel like we’re not worthy of staying at home. We’re raising the next generation of people who will be making policies that affect your future. It’s an incredible, worthwhile job.”