Verbal abuse is as dangerous as sexual or physical abuse. The only problem is that not everyone believed it to be so, until recently.
When you go through a great deal of stress and emotional trauma, over time, you’re going to develop a mental disorder, and anxiety is the most prevalent. However, many people tend to ignore mental abuse, but its impacts are as harmful as physical abuse.
Verbal abuse causes emotional trauma, and it occurs when a person is yelled, insulted, looked down upon, disrespected or controlled emotionally. It can also be manifested through names-calling, blame games, jokes (if done without consent), or attack on someone’s interests to make them feel worthless.
Scientists have recently revealed that cyberbullying and real-life verbal abuse are among the most common causes of mental disorder, and they affect both hemispheres of the brain, leading to numerous health problems.
Sherri Gordon, an author and bullying prevention expert, explains that verbal abuse is hard to identify because it’s not “as clear-cut” as other types of abuse.
“Because verbal abuse isn’t as clear-cut as other forms of abuse and bullying, like physical bullying and sexual bullying, it can be hard to identify. But that doesn’t make it any less real.”
“Typically, verbal abuse involves some sort of verbal interaction that causes a person emotional harm. For instance, when someone is being downright critical, acting out in anger, and using words to try to control another person, this is verbal abuse.”
“This, in turn, leaves a victim questioning who they are. In fact, it is not uncommon for a victim of verbal abuse to feel inadequate, stupid, and worthless. After all, they are being defined by a verbally abusive person.”
Gordon adds that if verbal abuse occurs in romantic relationships is somewhat confusing because the partner isn’t consistently abusive. These persons tend to be often loving and gentle, and their victims forget about the problems they had before.
“As a result, when the abuser is loving and gentle, the victim can forget all the about the negative behavior. Ultimately, the victim ends up ignoring the pattern of verbal abuse or makes excuses for the behavior saying things like he is just stressed out, or he is going through a tough time right now.”
Here are some of the symptoms of verbal abuse, and noticing them in someone else means you should help them.
Short-term effects include:
Low self-esteem and no enthusiasm for life
Impaired decision making
While Long-term effects are:
Anxiety (there it is, folks)
Now you can see what your harsh and abusive words can do to your loved one. It may probably not cause the damage in the first, second or third incidence, but over time, great harm can be done.