A woman from the United Arab Emirates is reportedly seeking a divorce, claiming that her life is “hell.” She feels suffocated by her husband’s “extreme love.”
The unnamed woman told a Shariah court in Fujairah that she has decided to divorce her husband, after one year of marriage, due to his overwhelming adoration for her.
Her husband never argued or yelled at her during their year-long marriage, and she can’t stand this “cruel-free treatment.” She’s complaining that “his love and compassion are so over the top” and she wants a divorce.
The woman told the court:
“I am choked by his extreme love and affection. He even assisted me in cleaning the house without me asking him.”
At one time, she complained about his weight. The husband went on a strict diet and exercise, a regime that left him with a broken leg.
She even told the court that her husband’s level of kindness makes her long for marital conflict.
“I am eagerly longing for a single day of dispute, but this seems impossible with my romantic husband, who always forgave me and showered me with daily gifts. I need a real discussion, even an argument, not this hassle-free life full of obedience.”
However, her husband pleaded with the court to advise his wife to withdraw the case.
The husband said:
“It’s not fair to judge a marriage from the first year, and everybody learns from their mistakes.”
“Everybody has advised me to disappoint and turn her down or reject some of her requests, but I did not because I am and always wish to be a perfect and kind husband.”
The court then adjourned the case to give the couple a chance to settle their disputes by themselves.
Contrary to popular beliefs, Muslim women also have the right to divorce.
Often, men in Islam hold the greater responsibility in issuing a Talaq, divorce granted by men, because they provide a woman with Mahr, dowry, in return for her hand in marriage. But a woman is not devoid of the right to obtain her freedom from an unfulfilling marriage.
According to Shariah Law, a Khula is the wife’s right to seek a divorce or to separate from her husband and can be obtained by mutual consent between husband and wife, or by judicial decree.
In his book, ‘Rights of Women in Islam,’ Asgharali Engineer said that a Muslim woman can ask for a Khula based on the following grounds:
She can’t live with her husband due to intense dislike
The husband has been imprisoned
The first step in a woman initiating a Khula is asking her husband to divorce her. That is, give her a Talaq. But if the husband disagrees, the wife needs to initiate proceedings in a Shariah Court.
The court with then decide, after considering all the facts, on whether or not a Khula can be granted.
Some people believe the court should order the husband to divorce his wife based on a simple notion that she can’t live with him. And she’s afraid that due to her dislike of him she might not be able to fulfill her Islamic obligations towards him.
Others believe that if the dispute can be settled by a mutual agreement between husband and wife, then there’s no need for a Shariah court intervention.
If a woman initiates the divorce and there’s no fault with her husband’s actions towards her, she’d be required to return the dowry to him in full.